Andrew & Esther - Through Our Eyes Archive
Our Thoughts

March 4, 2008
on visas, weddings, how to get free food & funny hair dos
We arrived at the Chinese embassy in Los Angeles, essentially unprepared for the visa procedure aside the passport photos I happened to have on us. Online, they made it seem so easy to get a visa the same day. In reality, it felt like entering into the Third World with moaning children and sweaty people waiting in line for hours. Seeing the numbers slowly flashing on the board, we realized we had over two hours to gather our papers together. Andrew grabbed an official application form, quite clearly a photocopy of a photocopied photocopy, and we got to work attempting to file for a multiple entry business visa. Freelancing was apparently not a good enough business reason for us to want to live in China. We needed to be invited.

Next thing I know, Andrew had plugged in his laptop searching for wifi connections to be able to find a cheat sheet business invitation online. In a frenzy he filled in relevant information and ran to the closest Kinko's to print while I attempted to complete the rest of the paperwork. Andrew arrived back from his adventure just before our number was called. I am thankful for my husband's great gift at stalling people as I was still filling out paperwork as we stood in front of the booth. The Chinese woman lost patience just in time for me to finish writing an incomprehensible Chinese address on all of the three forms. After all that work, no invitation was needed, rather more time for the visa pick-up. "You come Monday pick up" she said. We pleaded, frustrated we'd already been to the embassy when it had been closed and now had to fly out the next day. We showed our confirmation for the next day's flight to Denver and the lady became our ally closing the conversation with a sudden "visa come in one hour, pick up here" and a salty "same day rush" fee (times two) for the favor.

"Wait, problem" she suddenly said. We had sat on our laurels way too soon. With all his travels, Andrew's passport had no spare visa page. My husband's other hidden gift is playing dumb: "well, I have two reaaaally old and unimportant stamps you can cover up if you need space!?!" She said "nat passibo" but this allowed for some bargaining and at least a double entry visa. Before we could say goodbye - in fact, we were in mid-conversation - when the next number in line, a Chinese family, sprawled all over our counter and shoved their papers into our small speaking slot. We figured it was cultural and had a good nervous laugh wondering if we could take the lack of personal space in Asia. But after spending the day at the embassy and actually getting one multiple entry business visa and one double entry, there's no turning back now. We're going to China, folks!

After visiting countless precious friends, we left southern California to fly via Phoenix to Denver, Colorado on Valentine's day. Our flight came decorated with hearts, sweet messages and streamers - only in America! We landed in the "Mile-High City", quickly discovering the meaning behind the name as the cold air and snow blew into the plane. We found Denver to be a fascinating place, where the weather could vary from below freezing to tee-shirt weather in just hours. A beautiful mountainous place where people streamed past me on a joggers' path as I struggled and panted to keep up in the 1600m elevation. I thoroughly enjoyed being in one of America's more healthy metropoles. It was there that we stocked up on our herbal meds, ate great food and enjoyed the great outdoors of the Red Rocks. People were incredibly friendly to us there too. For example, we got a free rental car upgrade to the massive Chrysler Pacifica just for smiling - ha. Or, I walked into a Chipoltle restaurant and was given the whole meal free of charge (chips, meat tasters, drinks ) all because it was my first time and I looked nervous to try their barge-sized burrito.

Our friends Jeeva & Rachel and Jeff & Kristin welcomed us into their lives all week - soccer games, kids' school runs, great food, worship service and all - a restful time of bliss amongst the whirlwind of touring and visiting for which we were so grateful. The only downside was probably the terrible Coors beer I discovered to be home "grown" there. I should have figured if their USP is "made with fresh water from the Rockies" (oh, pleeease - it's beer not sparkling water!) it wouldn’t be worth the substance meeting an educated palette - duh! After a tour of the Coors brewery and the free sample, I decided I had gained nothing but knowledge of what never to order in an American bar.

We flew further East to Baltimore, Maryland and stayed in Washington DC in USA bed number 14 at Andrew's cousins' place. Very much a family weekend, where I met Andrew's grandma, more Brummes, toured the capital and of course the president's dormitory wondering which senator would be in the White House after the elections. We even managed to drive out to Pennsylvania to see my grandma, which was also high on our priority list for our US stay. From Washington DC, we drove our rental Kia down to North Carolina for the wedding of the year set to take place March 1st, quintupling its initial mileage of 200 miles. I had felt embarrassed for my children's children's world driving a tanker around Denver - felt like I should be shot or something. Coasting around in our new chintzy Korean car made me feel like I was doing better to the environment. Don’t ask!

North Carolina was positively the most southern I had ever been in the US. I went to a local barber's and suddenly dipped deep into the south with the sing song accents and slow storytelling and all. I wanted to become a brunette in honor of my new sister-in-law Eileen and figuring brown might be less conspicuous in Asia. Yet how do you politely tell a Southern barber that you really don’t do the southern bell curls. "Ehhh, feel free to just flick my hair out, don’t bother with the curling iron" I timidly advised, fearing his sense of style. Sure enough, the curls came out tight and regular, the barber having insisted on using his favorite curling iron. So funny!

Simeon & Eileen's wedding week built up day by day like a drum roll with more and more guests arriving each day at various airports. One night it was just us four, the next was games night, the next the rehearsal dinner, bachelor party and then the reception itself. The wedding was magical and moving and the weather was even fantastic. Even picking up the pieces after all attendants had left was emotional. Andrew and I have a huge heart for these two awesome nurses made of pure gold. All we wanted to do was to beg them to delay their honeymoon to come hang out and go camping with us or something. Hopefully hints of things to come in the near future. It was a great time to meet friends and also see the Heckman family again before China. This being the 4th Heckman wedding in eight months, we also got to meet new cousins-in-law and celebrate Eileen joining the wild Heckman bunch. Welcome to the family, Leen - we love you so much! YEAH, my little brother is a married man!



Before flying to Seattle tomorrow (US bed number 17), Andrew treated us to a hotel after the 6 hour drive back north instead of visiting friends in Philadelphia. We decided we needed some down time and Andrew was urgently needing to work. So hotwire.com found us a four star for a steal. I think almost cheaper than the zero star Etap'hotel we stayed in, in Paris. Wowzers. I almost feel embarrassed to stay here it's so nice - brand new hotel, full-size high tech gym, large lap pool, hot tub, free meals, real wine and coffee (yeah!), large plasma screen TV. What a treat, I feel like I am shamelessly joining Simeon & Eileen on honeymoon or something.

Hugs and kisses from the Brummes on USA's East Coast.

[Coming up soon: Washington, Oregon, California and ... Mexico!]